I Give Up!

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Over 5 years, 104 countries, thousands of visitors, we have enjoyed it all. But there comes a time when certain things have to be changed, the new ways have to be brought in and here I have decided to do the same. There are days when I feel that I have failed to innovate and got stuck with the old ways. So, I want to give up the old ways and take sometime off to put together the content that you guys would love to read.

For sometime there will be no new posts uploaded(don’t know how long!) but as and when it will be back.. be sure, it will be a different content.

I leave you with a quote form Steve Jobs – Details matter, it’s worth waiting to get it right”.

Will miss you….

Love,

Paul

How 5 days of limited internet access made me find myself.

Inspiration, Motivation, My Blog

This summer vacation I was in an offgrid hilly area of Munnar in Kerala. Where internet and phone network was not always available.. First I was restless without it and then after sometime it became depressing… I was so used to the constant messages and notifications, that it felt very abnormal not to get all of that.. But gradually I began to watch and listen more to the surrounding noises and a deep sense of tranquility engulfed me. I felt happier, calmer and much more creative…Sometimes just going off grid or at list with limited internet access and network can help you find yourself….
I have done it and looking forward to try it again. You will never know how good it feels if you never try. I do not promise instant bliss, especially if you are an internet addict, but after sometime you will feel better and happier. So, which off grid location are you planning of go?

DO NOT MESS IT UP LIKE THEY DID WITH US.

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Photo by Aaron Burden

Etymologically, the word school is derived from a Greek word ‘skholē’ meaning ‘leisure’.
Leisure?? School??
They don’t seem to align now, do they?

When I woke up this morning I didn’t set out to come up with this write up, but as I started working on a school report – I couldn’t help but find it sarcastically humorous that the place which is failing to uplift the essence, that is a child, actually has a connection to ‘use of free time for enjoyment’?

Sure, school is a requirement as of for hundreds of reasons. I am sure, many will come up with reason(s), as to why school is needed. But is it not becoming a nuisance for quite sometime now?
Since when did business and torment became synonymous with knowledge? 
Uncountable number of assignments, examinations, projects. How can we even forget the stress on marks obtained and the enormity of the fees levied by the schools. 
Even worse is the state of the teachers going through the training phase – trust me when I say this because I am a teacher in-training myself.

Are they competent enough to become teachers? What it takes to teach, to be amongst children and what damage a bad teacher can do to a child – no one keeps a tab on it. 
“There are no bad students, Only incompetent teachers”
Is this just a rant? No. It’s not. It’s a realisation on my part. 
We can’t change the curriculum nor can we wage a war on the government. Hell, we can’t even challenge a higher authority – but all y’all teachers and would be teachers, the one thing you can do is TRY. 
Try and change the way you teach and the way you perceive the art of education. Try to understand the psychology of the children and guide them accordingly. Make an alliance amongst yourselves. Make sure a child learns atleast one new thing from you everyday. 
Try and not create another generation of incompetent literates. 

Sure, it’s not what you set out to do initially, but you are here now – training yourselves to train the minds loaded with untouched untapped potential – DO NOT MESS IT UP LIKE THEY DID WITH US.
You got a voice – USE IT! The right way in the right place. 
INSPIRE. LOVE. CREATE A LEAGACY – YOUR LEGACY. 
BE THE TEACHER YOU ALWAYS WANTED WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD.

Written by Kasturi, Assam(India)

Sometimes ideas won’t come to you, you have to go to them….

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Many times we wait for an inspiration to strike us- to write, learn an instrument or do whatever you deep down always wanted to do.

Sometimes it is the action which comes before inspiration.. You just have to stick with that musical instrument or sit with those blank pages and start writing…

It’s the idea muscle we need to develop and this will only happen when we decide to act and not wait for the inspiration.

So let’s take the action and wait for the inspiration to strike latter.

-Paul Fernandes

No more groggy mondays if you do this..

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Ya, we think going back to work on Monday is difficult and after spending a relax sunday it’s natural to feel that way.

Tell me one thing you like doing and you won’t mind doing it again and again… Why is that- because you enjoy doing it and secondly you look forward to it.

We humans need something to look forward to and if we don’t get it we feel groggy or uncommitted etc etc…

If you don’t have anything to look forward to in your job-

1. Consider changing it.

2. Or Find something to look forward to in that job.

Once we find something to look forward to, we will enjoy what we do and we will no longer have to drag our feet on Monday.

-Paul Fernandes

Oh, you screwed-up, no problem… Here’s why…..

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It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.

– J.K Rowling

Photo by Thomas Stephan
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If you have never screwed-up at something at some point in life, then this post is not for you.. For the rest of the normal earthly people, let’s take this together..

May be you had made a resolution in the begining of the new year and failed to keep it, may be you screwed- up at work or relationship or whatever 1000 ways we humans are capable of screwing up.. You know, what – you have hope and it’s definetly not the end of the world and if you are reading this, I presume you are not dead…

Let’s try this- Bring to your mind a person you admire or adore a lot. (don’t read this further before bringing a person to your mind). You know what – this person who you admire a lot must have also screwed- up at something at somepoint in his or her life. So, it’s ok, he or she must have done something good enough after screwing -up, that today you admire that person…

Remember we have another day and let’s make that count..

-Paul Fernandes

Dream like your life depends on it..

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Sometimes external situations in life may push you to pick up a job that you dont enjoy or it will push you to take risk, be creative, innovative and do the things you always wanted to do and earn your living from it.

But, why wait for external situations in life to decide your destiny? Ya, I understand- fear of failure, people’s judging opinions are all part of not having confidence to take the risk and doing something that you love. Irony is that people will judge you anyways, then why not do the things you love and then allow people to judge you and make opinions about you…

Photo by Jordan Whitfield

Let me help you out, just answer these two questions to yourself.

1. What do you really enjoy doing and you won’t mind doing it for the rest of your life?

2. What is the only job you would do if your life depended on it?

Paul Fernandes

5 Things you did not know about 2019.

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While some of us are making our New Years resolutions – we have entered into the New Year. In this post I am going to tell you about 5 things you did not know about 2019.

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Photo by Ethan Robertson

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1. If you don’t take action, this year will not be any different.

You may have decided to do certain things, achieve certain results and live your dream life. This won’t be possible if you don’t take any action on those decisions. I like the Nike tag line – just do it. So let’s take some concrete actions on our desires to achieve higher results.

2. No one is going to help you more than you can help yourself.

We need people around us, no doubt about it. But if we only depend on people to help us reach our destination, we will never reach there. People have their own sh*t to deal with. So, you do all you can to achieve your goals and depend less on others doing it for you.

3. Health is wealth.

Last year I have seen too many young people dying due to health problems. There is no use of trying and getting millions, if your not there to enjoy it. This year let’s keep the balance between work and time to look after our body.

4. You don’t read, you don’t lead.

So many things are happening in our world today, that keeping a pace with what’s happening around us becomes very important. Let’s make a commitment to read more this year, because I believe reading and leading is directly associated with each other.

5. You are awesome.

I believe you are beautiful, handsome, hot, sexy, intelligent, successful and whatever you wish to be. Deep down I know you want to be that. Believe you are beautiful or handsome or successful and I am sure confidence, hardwork and belief in yourself will take you just where you want to be.

May be all of these 5 things were just a reminder to start this year with right mindset and positive attitude..

Have a wonderful year 2019.😀

-Paul Fernandes

Bigger the crisis, bigger the opportunities…

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The words of Napoleon Hill are ringing in my ears.

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit”.

If you are not experiencing crisis or have never experienced crisis in your life than this post is not meant for you. But for those who are or have experienced crisis in your life, let’s make this reading journey together.

Hey, by no means I wanna say that I am an expert at crisis handling, I am in crisis most of the time but there are things that have helped me to come out of crisis and that is exactly what I am gonna share, and may be you can use some of these methods…

One of my good friend committed suicide some time back and no one even knew he was going through crisis or problems, because he never expressed it or showed any signs of it. May be you are going through some crisis in your life or may be someone who you know may be going through one, but never shows it. This post may be just something that you may need or someone else may need. So, don’t forget to share it….

Do you remember when you were a child small things such as electricity going out before your favourite TV show would be so disheartening that we would feel our whole life had collapsed. Time when your best friend did not give you the chocolate and gave it to someone else we would be so hurt that – thoughts like why;what; how would emerge in our head and would not talk to them for days, just because of a chocolate. Today when we have grown up a little we look back and find all those small small tensions = something to laugh at… like wise I feel Half the crisis or tensions go away when we talk to someone with a little bit of more experience in our life than we have, so that brings me to my first point..

1.Find a mentor: Here the person should have seen a little more life than you have, should be professional at mentoring and someone who you can trust and of course who has to be a good listener, no body likes advices, people like people who can be their guide and not advisers.

2.Books: Books(self help) according to me are a great source of support. So always have a good self help book by your side.

3.Don’t tell your problems to everyone: Truth is nobody cares about your complaining and problems. They are rapped in their own world, all don’t really care, they may feel sorry for you. Tell me, what are you gonna do with their feeling sorry?

4.Write down 2 things : Everyday write down 2 ways in which your life can be better. Believe me I tried this for 30 days few years back and let me tell you, it worked and worked in ways I couldn’t fathom. I can’t tell you the science behind it..but it works.. try it..

5.You are in that situation for a reason: You can allow your situation to make you or break you. There is a reason for it all.. wait, it will unfold itself.

I will leave you with few lines…

May be...

If Steve jobs had got stuck in the crisis after he was fired from the company he started, May be, we wouldn’t have PIXAR animation studio.

If J.K.Rowling got stuck in the back of her car thinking of all the problems in her life and never starting to write something, may be, we wouldn’t have HARRY POTTER.

I can go on and on with may be.. but what’s more important is

If ……………………(your name) prevailed through my crisis then may be the world will be able to witness……………….

Remember, Sometimes making opportunities for yourself is better than waiting for one….

-Paul Fernandes

What are you most grateful for today?

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“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around”. – Willie Nelson

Gratitude has always been a bridge which has helped me to travel from where I was to where I wanted to be. I realized that the more I am grateful, more comes my way to be grateful for. Over 8 years I have kept a gratitude journal and when I look back it amazes me to see that the things which were not a reality in my life back then, today they are. Lot of the credit goes to the power of Gratitude.

What are you going to be grateful for today?

Tips to write your Gratitude journal.

You can write it in your phone or do it an old fashion way of pen and paper. I have tried both and I would prefer pen and paper, but it’s good to try the other way too..

  1. Start writing down 5 things you are grateful for everyday.(over time you can increase it)
  2. Be consistent.
  3. Do it for 30 days continuously to see the difference in your life.

May you have a gratetul life ahead of you…..

Paul Fernandes

My walk from Garage to NASA, Md Adil Aman

Motivation, My Blog, NASA

We all are in pursue of one answer. What is life? For me life is Marvel movies, Dan Brown books and Ed Sheeran songs. You guessed it right. I’m a kid. I’m the person who dared to dream.

So, here’s my story. I was born and brought up in a small town named Asansol in West Bengal. My father was a peon in Eastern Railways and we used to live in a rented garage until my father was promoted and we moved to comfortable quarters. I joined St. Vincent’s High & Technical school. This was the part where I think God showered his blessing upon me. Being poor is not a very good option in this era of economics. Pardon me for using the word “option”. But trust me everyone has a choice. Vincent’s was my home. I learnt a lot in this school. Really a lot. Not rot learning, real learning. My life was more than perfect. I had just one little problem. My parents! Always had arguments. It went to the extend that my mom, along with my nine months baby brother and me went to commit suicide in a railway track. I never had good clothes at that time and I could feel the chill shivering my bone. Imagine my brother’s situation. I was merely only in fourth grade. That particular night it went too far. Even the tear drops were cold that night. I had only one thing in my hand. A book. Yes, a book. That day I prayed and prayed just so that I could see the morning’s light along with my mom. I think God listened to me. From that night my life changed. It might seem a light vague that how a small kid become so determined. Trust me, hunger pangs can change anything.

There were many incidents in my life. Mostly happy ones. One of them is science. I loved science. Not just for marks. I used to study to find answers. I used to study stuffs of higher standards just to quench my thirst for answers. In sixth grade we had a science teacher. I was such a mischievous fellow at that time! I really apologize to every teacher who taught me even after I gave pain. There my science teacher, Mr Paul Fernandes for me he was a star. No kidding, he was star for every kid at that time. He played his 11-year-old guitar and taught us how to sing in the school chapel. I couldn’t learn singing from him. But I learnt one important thing in my life in that one year. God is there with everyone of us. He called me ‘scientist’ at that time. I had this very bad habit of asking questions!

I was in high school in the eighth grade when a news was there in the newspaper. The news read,”Durgapur kid went to NASA”. This was pretty fascinating for me. NASA to me was like Mount Olympus to Greeks. I thought that yes, I can do it too. But sadly, I never had a computer to write my stuffs. So, I waited. Until latter that year that my mom gifted me a computer by selling few of her jewelleries. Our house needed renovation. My father had no money at that time. So, my mom sold some of her jewelleries. With the left-over money, my computer arrived. With the joy of a new device, I forgot everything. Really everything. Until one day the NASA thing hit me. At once I left everything and started my research work. Now let me tell you something about this NASA thing. NASA along with NSS conducts a project named “NASA Space Settlement Contest”. Individuals, small group and large group can participate in this contest. These are conducted for age group of 12 to 18. I asked my best friend at that time to help me in the work. I thought we can do this together. But he denied. I thought that may be this is too childish. Dreaming for NASA in ninth grade needs determination. But I went alone. Not because I was determined to do it. I did my NASA project just for fun. I knew I won’t get it and still it would be fun. I wanted to learn stuffs and this was the perfect excuse to my mom to skip study hours (Yes, I love science and maths but I hated subjects like history, geography and Bengali because my marks were pretty bad in these subjects). I did a lot of research. I used to get my monthly 1 GB/month net allowance from my parents so I had to manage with it. I used to sleep 5-6 hours at that time. But for me that didn’t matter because it was fun for me. I wrote a 110 pages project and sent it to NASA. I didn’t expect anything out of it. But then, on March our term for ninth grade was over. At that time, we never had this career tension banging our heads. So, we were more than just happy. Fiddle with my phone, I went to the NASA website. I was checking who all won it. I was scrolling and scrolling. Then there was a list of first prizes in ninth grade. The very first project was “Wings of fire”. I was like wo, someone copied my project’s name. Then I saw “St. Vincent’s”, beside the project’s name. Yes, by God’s miracle I won a NASA prize. That too the first prize. I rushed to my mom and told her. She told me, “Good now study, your ICSE exams are knocking on your door”. I just rushed to my teacher’s house and showed him the notification. He was so proud of me. He told me well done. I was so happy. I told my school principal and my other teachers. They were more than happy. I was happy that I don’t have to listen to my mom’s nagging because I did something good which made her happy. But God planned something else for me.

The next day, I opened my what’s app. Instead of some “Good morning” message there was a newspaper article. “Wings of fire”. Yes, I was all over the news. And guess what I was a celebrity. And by celebrity, I mean more delicious food! Yes, I was a kid. Friends and family meant everything to me and I wanted to enjoy my life. Time went by and reporters came to our house. At some point it went bad for me. I didn’t like so much exposure because I thought it will make me egoistic and I will topple as fast as I went up. So, I just stayed calm and stayed away from all these. But my friends, to whom I will always be thankful, were the same. They were the same kid snatching away my tiffin. But in my small world, it was the keyhole through which I could see the world. But my school principal(Mr. Ravi) opened the entire door. He decided to go with me to Canada where I was invited. Money never stood a problem at that time. My relatives furnished me with their support. I never had a very good relationship with parents and was consider a black sheep of my family. But this was a chance for me to make them proud. I went to Canada. It was a pretty good place. I saw people with white skin for the first time. They all were smiling all the time. I was shy at first. Then I opened up. As I won the first prize in the NASA Space Settlement contest in 2015, I was invited to attend the International Space Development Conference (ISDC) which was held in Toronto that year. I along with my teacher attended the five days conference in which we learnt a lot. I won the prize individually, so I was all alone in the conference. But as time passed, I made new friends. They were from all over the world. As I was trying to explain my project, I also got to know the project of other students and groups. Students from Romania, South Korea, China United States, United Kingdom and many more countries were present in the conference. On the five day long conference, one day we visited the University of Toronto. There we visited the aeronautical and physical science department. There we learnt a lot. Many post graduate students and researchers shared the projects they were working on. We even saw micro satellites that were used for navigation. For the first time in my life I saw a 3D printer. I was so excited that even stayed few hours extra to know its exact working mechanism! I was allowed to give a speech on my project. Many businessmen, scientists, students, researchers, teachers and students were present to listen to my project. I was so glad that my project caught their eyes. Back in India, when I asked my friends whether they will be in my project or not, they ridiculed me and called me “crazy” after hearing my idea. But when I presented my project as a first prize winner, that too working alone, I was happy. My teacher was really proud of me. I attended lectures by noble laureate Kip Thorne and astronaut Anousheh Ansari.

There were many lectures going on during the entire session of conference. I, along with my friends from other countries attended those lectures. We were astonished by the similarity we shared in our views even though we live miles apart. During the break we were even playing games. After all we were all teenagers! We learnt a lot about each other and the way of studies. We even exchanged our projects and discussed about the improvements we can make in them. There were sessions where we had to make groups and visit the project made by other groups. We literally learnt a lot from these sessions. After that we even visited US. For me US was the factory for Marvel Heroes. I visited that factory! For me it was like visiting Willi Wonka’s chocolate factory. Guess what? I went to the home of Captain America and Spiderman, New York City. For me it was a dream come true. I returned to India with more knowledge and more determination. I was pretty much determined to do something and make a mark. I decided to do something. I wanted to become a scientist. Yes, a scientist. I wanted to become the person my teacher wanted me to be. A scientist. I won first prize in the NASA Space settlement contest in 2015. After winning such a prestigious award, I was confident. I wrote another project for 2016. I used to sleep only a couple hours for three months to complete my project. After a lot of struggle, I wrote it. When I sent my project to the United States of America in the month of January, 2016, my project was stopped by customs. I used to track my mail. My project went into a black hole. I don’t know why my package was stopped. It didn’t reach the correct place before the deadline and so it was not evaluated. I was really hurt. I didn’t get a prize that year. I really put a lot of effort in my project but it didn’t reach the real place. I was so frustrated that I gave up on studies. My grade in 11th grade degraded a lot. I was under a lot of pressure and was depressed. After a phase I started working again and came back to normal life. I was so heartbroken that I didn’t want to continue any of my research work. I just wanted to do my normal academic studies. But then I saw a video depicting the life story of the famous rapper Eminem. I was like, “Hey Adil if he can do it why can’t you. Don’t lose hope man.” I started working for another project for the next year. This time I wasn’t afraid of losing. In the month of November, 2016, I decided to do another project. I was again filled with hope and had the mental energy to pull this thing up again. This time I wasn’t afraid of being rejected. I was morally stronger now. I worked harder this time and again won it in the year 2017. This story of mine is known to only few of my close friends. After I won the prize for the second time, I told my parents what happened. All along they thought my project was not good enough and they were really also very sad about it. When I told them that my project never reached and then the following year I again tried to do another project, they were like supper happy. I didn’t share my achievements with my friends and teachers because they might distract me. I was happy. From that day, I was never ever afraid of making mistakes or failing in life. This made me cool minded and help me focus on my work. The thing I learnt from this part of my life is to never give up on yourself and to keep faith on God. I would like to say something to anyone reading this. I am a kid. Just a normal kid who was playing in the garage. From the garage I went to NASA. This might not be the part where I will stop. This is the part where I realised that I was much than just a kid. My parents couldn’t support me because they had their personal issues. I wanted a family, a happy one. I wanted a mom who isn’t depressed about her life. I want a family! But guess what, God is the best playwriter. Characters appear in a particular scene, incidents happen in a particular act. Not before or after. Just at a particular time. I pray I don’t commit a sin, for God is the greatest. I don’t open up myself to anyone. Literally no one. I have worked hard in my life. I used to wash clothes for my mom couldn’t when she was pregnant. I used to eat less because my mom couldn’t cook when she had pain. I used to cry when my father didn’t stay up in home for Eids. But guess what, life is more than just asking from God.

I have failed a lot of times in my life. But one thing I am sure of is that, I will never stop. There are times when I wanted to end my life all at once. I cried, I winced, I fell. But I didn’t stop. There are people like Eminem, Chris Gardner, Malala, Mahatma Gandhi, Barack Obama, Napoleon Hill who inspire millions. But one thing they had in common. They all dared to dream. So, did I. The journey wasn’t pleasant. But the results are always happy. I have to achieve a lot. I won’t stop till the day my father has a smile of his face or till the day my mom says you did it. Till then I will work and work. As Frost said,” Miles to go before I sleep, Miles to go before I sleep”. Mr. Paul Fernandes told me write about my NASA experience. But this was more than just an experience. It was a lesson for me. To this date I remain thankful to him who trusted me. Friends and teachers will always be the “BOB the builder” of my life. Thankyou!

If I did it my way and failed, it’s OK, An extra step changes everything. -Anil Singh.

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If I did it my way and failed, it’s ok. These words came out of Anil Singh’s mouth and most of the audience had an immediate connection with him. This article is my take on Anil Singh’s TEDX, Panchgani talk, which at a personal level did move me a lot. His journey with marathon started with the London marathon. The difference between participatory sports and spectator sports was crystal clear in his talk.

He said, “When over 40,000 plus people participate in the marathon run, there are 40,000 plus winners and with it 40,000 stories.” These were golden words, because isn’t our life about stories ?

He spoke about getting Standard Chartered to back up his dream of having a marathon and how he made people understand the fabric of sports. Two things which stood out were perseverance and love for sports. I think we all need to have both, love and perseverance no matter what field we are into.

I am paraphrasing the words of Anil Singh – ‘If I did it my way and failed it was ok, I would get a good sleep, imagine I did it your way and failed, I would never get sleep’. May be this is what we need sometimes, to believe in our dream and to know that in the end it will workout.

Anil Singh introduced India to “Dream run”. And this year(2018) it’s called as TATA Mumbai marathon.

Anil Singh is the founder and Managing Director of Procam International – the company that promotes the iconic TATA Mumbai Marathon, Airtel Delhi Half Marathon, TCS World 10k Bengaluru and the Tata Steel Kolkata 25k.

Imagination Breathing wishes him all the best for his future endeavours. Let’s all as he says, “Keep plunging away”.

From Mom’s Nose Pin to Brother’s Gym: How at the age of 9 I realised that gender is fluid, Aishwarya

Inspiration, My Blog, women

“Rahul, Raj, Govindda, Ajay…..” the audience blabbers as they were asked to guess the host of OBR (One Billion Rising is a global movement, founded by Eve Ensler, to end rape and sexual violence against women (onebillionrising.org)

“It is Aishwarya”, says the host finally.

“My name is Aishwarya and I was born a girl.”

I am a 17 year old student and at the age of 9 started applying the concept of gender fluidity. It started when my mom and dad separated, and my dad was fed up of tying up my waist long hair, hence, got it cut short. I was told by many that it suited me, and that I was looking cute. That was the reason I didn’t return to my long hair, but this of course is not the reason that I am identified as a boy. I have an elder brother and sister and since childhood my brother was allowed to go out, be it day or night, was allowed to hangout with his friends, and take all serious decisions and responsibilities of the house, this used to confuse and annoy me because I too was a human and I used to wonder why was I treated unequally. That time I didn’t know anything about gender equality, or that women were equal before law, I became sensitised only after 6 years when I joined NINEISMINE (http://www.nineismine.in)at the age of 14.

Although I was being treated equal as my brother, by her father, I was sent for grocery shopping or any other important work in the absence of my brother; I was given a phone before my elder sister. Although it made me happy but it also made me realise the level of discrimination in our Indian families and I started fighting for my sister’s rights with my father, and now all the three children of my family are treated equally.

When I got opportunity to speak in public, I spoke on gender equality, and everybody used to think that I am a boy because of my attire, my voice and my built which I had due to the gym, and once I tell them my name the hall used to echo with applause.

Now, everyone refers to me as beta(son), bhai(brother) and my sister looks up to me, as the so called protector, rather than my brother. I know this concept of protector too needs to be eliminated and that’s my vision: I want to become a professional dancer, and by being be the real me on private and public platforms, I know I am fighting gender stereotypes and inequality.

Now that I recall the times I used to apply my mother’s lipstick I laugh, and continue doing my dumbbells. There are lot of people who come to me and say that they want to be just like me and have the same courage. You know what? I am going to fight for all of these people.

My family, friends, neighbours, teachers all have accepted me like I am, and why shouldn’t they?
I am just another human.

One voice was louder than the rest- DANCE, DANCE, DANCE!

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I loved dancing since I was a kid. I always looked for opportunities to get on stage and dance. After I had finished my schooling years, my dream of being a professional dancer was fading away. I knew dance was the only thing that would make me come alive.

After my 3 years of graduation, I was contemplating about going into management sector. It was the movie “3 idiots” that changed my mind and I began to ask myself some serious questions on what I really wanted to do in life. One voice was louder than the rest “DANCE, DANCE DANCE.” I listened to my gut feeling and decided to venture into the world of professional dancing. My family and friends always supported my decision.

Since Bollywood is full of senior experienced choreographers and dancers, the biggest struggle in Mumbai was to find work as a choreographer. On a good day I would get through an audition or an interview, on a bad day it was worst.

I thought of doing my training in my hometown- Goa, but there were no professional institutes that attracted me. I was on a lookout for full time dance training institute and then I came across Terence Lewis professional training institute.

I auditioned in 2010, but I did not get through. I worked hard at my moves everyday for a year and then I auditioned again in 2011 and this time I got selected for the scholarship programme. I finished my training in 2013, then I got selected to work with Terence Lewis contemporary dance co. as performer, I was really happy n amazed to finally work with Terence Lewis. He is one of the most intelligent and beautiful human being I have come across, he is my biggest motivation in life who has always been there when I needed him. He has been a guide and friend to me.

Today, I am a professional dancer and choreographer and this was possible because of immense hard work, support form Terence Lewis and unconditional love from family and friends. To all those out there who aspire to be professional dancers. Get into this business only if you have love for it and are willing to work hard.

-Shailesh

Mic Check! with Alfie

Anchor, book, Goa, Inspiration, Motivation, My Blog

A warm Hello to all Masters of Ceremony and Anchors, present and future. Here are a few thoughts based on 20 years of experience in this field.

1. WHAT ~ WHEN ~ WHERE ~ WHY : Try and find comprehensive answers to these questions vis-à-vis your event, or people might soon start asking HOW did he get this gig. In this digital age, information is freely available. Know the Event, know the Acts, know the Timeline.

2. TOMATO IS A FRUIT : Knowing that is knowledge … NOT putting tomatoes in a fruit salad is Wisdom!(Miles Kingdon). MC is not paid to show off his knowledge! Use your phrases in phases … You’re an Anchor not a stand-up comic. 

3. MIDDLE FINGER OR THUMB : Both stand out but only one makes a statement! Dress smart, dress appropriate (Corporate dress codes).  Choose Comfort over Style! If your Gucci loafers are killing your feet it will show in your performance and if your pant is too tight, it squeezes your breath among other things!

4. ONE IN A BILLION : From among the 109 billion that have walked the earth … There is no one with your fingerprints! You are Unique … Let it show! Develop your own style of introducing and signing off. Whoever said, “Imitation is the highest form of flattery” probably borrowed the quote and lacked self confidence!

5. LOVE ~ LAUGH ~ LIVE : If you do not love being an MC and are not enjoying your performance … You are not living the dream! “Talk a little but Read a lot, Cry a little and Laugh a lot, Play a little but Work a lot and Hope a little but Pray a lot” #AlfieSaidItFirst 

He wanted to see the world from top, so he climbed Everest !!!

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I have known Gary for over 4 years, to me he comes across as friendly and down to earth person. Gary Jarman Lamare is from Shilliong, Meghalaya. The feeling of exploration and adventure has made him climb some of the highest mountain peaks in the world, some of them being Kangchenjunga, Annapurna Massif, Cho Oyu and Mount Everest. When asked about what initiated him into mountain climbing, his reply was, “I always wanted to see the world from high above and I could do that by climbing mountains.” Gary believes that if you really want something, we can get it with hard work and perseverance and what is most required is BELIEF in oneself. He says, the word BELIEVE has made him do things that most others thought it would be impossible. 

He climbed Mt.Everest in 2012 as a cameraman for the discovery channel capturing the journey of the Indian Army women’s expedition. When asked to describe about the experience of climbing the world’s highest mountain peak, he said, “if I wasn’t passionate about climbing mountains, I wouldn’t have done it”. This is a great reminder to all the readers, that doing something you are passionate about plays a vital role for having a fulfilled life. Forces of nature can be devastating, climbing up at that height. Gary’s story of perseverance is a great reminder to all of us that if we want something we can achieve it, if we believe in it. His last climb was Stok Kangri in Ladakh. 


Currently he is exploring the oceans. He has started the Goa Diving centre in Bogmalo beach. His purpose to start was to break the fear of water (aquaphobia)among people. So if you are in Goa and want to explore the sea, you just know where to go.

Click the link to find out more about Goa Diving – http://www.facebook.com/GoaDiving

http://www.tripadvisor.in/Attraction_Review-g1204880-d3846940-Reviews-Goa_diving-Vasco_da_Ga
We wish Gary Jarman all the best for all his future adventures. 

-Paul Fernandes

Imagination Breathing