Oh, you screwed-up, no problem… Here’s why…..

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It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.

– J.K Rowling

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If you have never screwed-up at something at some point in life, then this post is not for you.. For the rest of the normal earthly people, let’s take this together..

May be you had made a resolution in the begining of the new year and failed to keep it, may be you screwed- up at work or relationship or whatever 1000 ways we humans are capable of screwing up.. You know, what – you have hope and it’s definetly not the end of the world and if you are reading this, I presume you are not dead…

Let’s try this- Bring to your mind a person you admire or adore a lot. (don’t read this further before bringing a person to your mind). You know what – this person who you admire a lot must have also screwed- up at something at somepoint in his or her life. So, it’s ok, he or she must have done something good enough after screwing -up, that today you admire that person…

Remember we have another day and let’s make that count..

-Paul Fernandes

Dream like your life depends on it..

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Sometimes external situations in life may push you to pick up a job that you dont enjoy or it will push you to take risk, be creative, innovative and do the things you always wanted to do and earn your living from it.

But, why wait for external situations in life to decide your destiny? Ya, I understand- fear of failure, people’s judging opinions are all part of not having confidence to take the risk and doing something that you love. Irony is that people will judge you anyways, then why not do the things you love and then allow people to judge you and make opinions about you…

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Let me help you out, just answer these two questions to yourself.

1. What do you really enjoy doing and you won’t mind doing it for the rest of your life?

2. What is the only job you would do if your life depended on it?

Paul Fernandes

5 Things you did not know about 2019.

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While some of us are making our New Years resolutions – we have entered into the New Year. In this post I am going to tell you about 5 things you did not know about 2019.

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1. If you don’t take action, this year will not be any different.

You may have decided to do certain things, achieve certain results and live your dream life. This won’t be possible if you don’t take any action on those decisions. I like the Nike tag line – just do it. So let’s take some concrete actions on our desires to achieve higher results.

2. No one is going to help you more than you can help yourself.

We need people around us, no doubt about it. But if we only depend on people to help us reach our destination, we will never reach there. People have their own sh*t to deal with. So, you do all you can to achieve your goals and depend less on others doing it for you.

3. Health is wealth.

Last year I have seen too many young people dying due to health problems. There is no use of trying and getting millions, if your not there to enjoy it. This year let’s keep the balance between work and time to look after our body.

4. You don’t read, you don’t lead.

So many things are happening in our world today, that keeping a pace with what’s happening around us becomes very important. Let’s make a commitment to read more this year, because I believe reading and leading is directly associated with each other.

5. You are awesome.

I believe you are beautiful, handsome, hot, sexy, intelligent, successful and whatever you wish to be. Deep down I know you want to be that. Believe you are beautiful or handsome or successful and I am sure confidence, hardwork and belief in yourself will take you just where you want to be.

May be all of these 5 things were just a reminder to start this year with right mindset and positive attitude..

Have a wonderful year 2019.😀

-Paul Fernandes

Bigger the crisis, bigger the opportunities…

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The words of Napoleon Hill are ringing in my ears.

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit”.

If you are not experiencing crisis or have never experienced crisis in your life than this post is not meant for you. But for those who are or have experienced crisis in your life, let’s make this reading journey together.

Hey, by no means I wanna say that I am an expert at crisis handling, I am in crisis most of the time but there are things that have helped me to come out of crisis and that is exactly what I am gonna share, and may be you can use some of these methods…

One of my good friend committed suicide some time back and no one even knew he was going through crisis or problems, because he never expressed it or showed any signs of it. May be you are going through some crisis in your life or may be someone who you know may be going through one, but never shows it. This post may be just something that you may need or someone else may need. So, don’t forget to share it….

Do you remember when you were a child small things such as electricity going out before your favourite TV show would be so disheartening that we would feel our whole life had collapsed. Time when your best friend did not give you the chocolate and gave it to someone else we would be so hurt that – thoughts like why;what; how would emerge in our head and would not talk to them for days, just because of a chocolate. Today when we have grown up a little we look back and find all those small small tensions = something to laugh at… like wise I feel Half the crisis or tensions go away when we talk to someone with a little bit of more experience in our life than we have, so that brings me to my first point..

1.Find a mentor: Here the person should have seen a little more life than you have, should be professional at mentoring and someone who you can trust and of course who has to be a good listener, no body likes advices, people like people who can be their guide and not advisers.

2.Books: Books(self help) according to me are a great source of support. So always have a good self help book by your side.

3.Don’t tell your problems to everyone: Truth is nobody cares about your complaining and problems. They are rapped in their own world, all don’t really care, they may feel sorry for you. Tell me, what are you gonna do with their feeling sorry?

4.Write down 2 things : Everyday write down 2 ways in which your life can be better. Believe me I tried this for 30 days few years back and let me tell you, it worked and worked in ways I couldn’t fathom. I can’t tell you the science behind it..but it works.. try it..

5.You are in that situation for a reason: You can allow your situation to make you or break you. There is a reason for it all.. wait, it will unfold itself.

I will leave you with few lines…

May be...

If Steve jobs had got stuck in the crisis after he was fired from the company he started, May be, we wouldn’t have PIXAR animation studio.

If J.K.Rowling got stuck in the back of her car thinking of all the problems in her life and never starting to write something, may be, we wouldn’t have HARRY POTTER.

I can go on and on with may be.. but what’s more important is

If ……………………(your name) prevailed through my crisis then may be the world will be able to witness……………….

Remember, Sometimes making opportunities for yourself is better than waiting for one….

-Paul Fernandes

Let’s play again – Reviving our forgotten childhood games! Dr. Sandeep Kate

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MAGIC !!!

The mere mention of word is sure to arouse some interest !

Well, let me tell you that this writeup is NOT about Magic, at least not of the kind we usually mean when we think of the word.

I’m talking about the long lost and nearly “magical” period of our lives that we all fondly remember & cherish as our “Childhood days”….

Let’s have a bit of a fun quiz  –

Question –

Did you play any of the following games as a child ??

Spinning tops ( Lattoo/Bhavra ),  Marbles ( Kanche/Gotya ) , Gilli danda ( Viti dandu ) , Lagori, flying Kites, Chor Police, Aandhali Koshimbir (blind man’s buff ), Jiblya/Thikrya, Aba dubi, Sagargote, and so on …

If your answer is “yes” and if the mere mention of these games and play things brings a sensation of nostalgia or “deja vu” to you, then I can safely (magically ) tell you that you were born in the early half of the 1990’s or earlier.

Okay Okay … I know this wasn’t really a demonstration of magic but a simple guesstimate here….

My point is that these and dozens of other such games and activities have been played traditionally by children for hundreds or rather thousands of years. Not only in India but all over the world. However, the advent of technology and the sweeping changes in our culture and lifestyle, brought about by the rapid digitisation of our world, has put these games at a real risk of getting lost forever.

Is it important at all to sweat over this ” trivial ” issue ? How does it matter if the kids of the present and future generations stop playing these games ? Isn’t change the reality and rule of life ??

Is it even our business to get involved as adults ?

The answer is both easy and very difficult at the same time.

For my part, I have chosen to say –

” YES ”

Yes, it is important to ensure that our children are introduced to these wonderful pastimes and that they develop and sustain an interest in these games and activities.

It’s not like we tell them to start playing  these games to the exclusion of their  computers and televisions. I think we need to help them (and ourselves) achieve a healthy balance between the “Real” and “Virtual” games !

There is something wonderful and important about these traditional games that cannot be simply brushed away as rose tinted & sepia toned nostalgia.

Adults or Kids – we all need our regular dose of “Fun” & “Play” to keep our sanity intact in our fast paced and “constantly connected” world !

We need to connect on a more basic, simple and human level with each other and with our own selves. There is no better way to do this than through simple and plain old fashioned games – the games that we all played as children and that we still ought to play with each other AND with our children.

Simple games, simple fun, simple and joyful lives….

If this thought excites you, & if you would actually like to do something about this,  please visit our website http://soilgames.co.in to find out more.

Get in touch with us if you wish to contribute to the movement to revive our long lost / forgotten / traditional childhood games…

चलो, फिरसे खेलते हैं ..

Let’s Play Again!!!

Dr. Sandeep S Kate

Democratised Disruptive Innovation- What could it mean for the individual? Hirander Misra

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To learn lessons for the future we have to look at the past.

A few thousand years ago, when money never existed, a transaction happened only by exchanging agreed commodities by barter. E.g. Panchgani in Maharashtra where I recently held a TEDx talk on the subject I am writing about now is famous for strawberries – if you had strawberries and someone had cows to produce cream you could exchange a given amount of milk for a given amount of strawberries based on a discussion to determine the value of each and you both now could happily eat strawberries and cream. Life was simple and easy to understand.

A few centuries ago, with an inception of globalisation and increase in population the trade happened by exchanging commodities with rare materials like gold and silver.

Moneylenders in the past filled the gaps left by banks and still exist today. The Venetians were key players in the 1300s. For example moneylenders keep your gold and lend you money and charge you interest but if you did not pay it back they keep your gold

Around 16thcentury, the current banking system started evolving. Banks started to print paper currency. They were printed on the basis of gold reserve but from 1973 this backing by gold was removed as part of the Breton Woods Agreement as backing by gold was expensive. From then on faith in currency is based on trust. This is not different to Bitcoin, a virtual currency today, whose value is based on expectations and hence trust.

At the time of the 16th century exchanges also came into being. An exchange is a central meeting place for buyers and sellers and came because in era before computers more buying and selling could be conducted in a concentrated location. This was really the start of the evolution of an exchange and money as we understand it. In 1602 a central place for buyers and sellers to trade with each other was established in Amsterdam which became known as Amsterdam Stock Exchange albeit the Belgians claim the first exchange since 1531.

From the 1990’s stock markets become more electronic gradually in the most part replacing trading that was done on the open outcry floor of a stock exchange to computer based trading. Then the financial crisis happened in 2018 and many individuals and companies were impacted by the reckless greed of a few.

This financial system has made individuals reliant on middlemen be it a bank or a broker and even in cases, exchanges with dominant position. Financial markets have became complex to understand and expensive in many cases with a never ending era of products available to the unassuming consumer. The system the rough the centuries has become unfairly priced and complex. For example you may only receive 50% of the value of your gold as a loan and 20 percent interest may be paid for it. Is it fair?

Banks do the same with assets but one can argue in this era of technology the value of the services provided is too expensive relative to the overhead to deliver those services. Greed has led to a complex financial system that few understand with lots of vested interest. Every day people are exploited by the system and I am not saying the system is not needed but it needs to change. How can we bring fair level playing field to eradicate disparity – but also with social reform, which is impactful and sustainable? This niggling thought really hit home to me in 2008 when I was COO of an innovative electronic stock exchange called Chi-X Europe, which I had co-founded. Lehman one of our clients went bust in front of my very eyes and Fortis Bank our clearing bank nearly went the same way until the Dutch Government bailed it out. Global financial meltdown ensued. I realised that the system was flawed and there must be a better way. Yes the system had to exist with better controls but it had to reach back to grass roots level as it had become so far removed from reality.

We at GMEX Group have personal experience of this as a company. In 2015 we started working with the Agricultural Commodity Exchange for Africa (ACE) in Malawi after a fortuitous meeting with Kristian Shach Moller in a hotel bar at a conference in Switzerland. This exchange, which deals with grains and pulses but was struggling to reach the end smallholder farmer that it was set up to facilitate in a meaningful way as only 5% of its activity was farmers selling their crop direct to market. Middleman which at the time added no value were giving smallholder farmers 10% of what their commodity was worth and the banks despite having the commodity as security much like a money lender keeps gold still lent at 30-40% interest rates and that too to only 60% of the value. The farmer took all the risk but was left struggling to feed his or her family. By introducing prices on their mobile phones to farmers and educating them as well as making the banks compete online to lend in addition to brining in cheaper finance through mobile/ electronic banking coupled with making the exchange more accessible for them to sell their produce directly, in one year in 2016 the incomes of 47,000 smallholder farmers went up 31%. $10mn worth of finance was provided and that would have been $110mn if there had been better access to finance. This would have then benefitted nearly 500,000 smallholder farmers.

This lead us to realise that technology instead of being exclusive could become more inclusive and transparent. More income leads to social welfare, women’s empowerment, children’s nutrition as we saw in Malawi. Value add now can move from being farmers growing tomatoes to produce tomato paste (add value) and then have demand for financial services personally like mortgages and loans that are priced right. The unbanked start to become banked.

We further realised that this issue was prevalent across all other parts of Sub-Saharan Africa as well as Latin America and South East Asia. Take coffee as an example, we in a fancy coffee shop were paying £2.50 a cup yet the end farmer was lucky if he got £0.10. As such positive change in a sustainable manner where we made people reliant on commercial enterprise not charity hand outs could lead to a massive positive impact on a global scale

This led to the creation in 2017 of a dedicated initiative by us to facilitate this called FinComEco (Financial and Commodities Ecosystem). This has led to engagement in 21 African countries as well as 3 outside the continent but with lots of work to be done to fully convince governments and stakeholders in many of these to not only do this but also do it in a proper fashion involving all key areas fully linking farming to the end value chain of demand. A middleman for agriculture still has a role to play much like they do in financial services but it was those who could add value be it by making the smallholder farmer bigger and influential by grouping/ aggregating production or offering convenience such as transport to get it from the farm gate to the warehouse were the ones which would now prevail in this new world. The farmers in the case of ACE can now choose how they sell, when and how they got a fair loan to buy fertiliser and seeds when they needed it at the outset. The exchange now enabled by technology is at the heart of that to ensure that technology is used for good. This is applicable to many different sectors and we are also now starting to do the same through a separate India based initiative we announced in December 2017 for rag pickers and others who generate waste to creating an exchange for waste such as cow dung, etc to bring valuable incomes to those who need them most. Not to also mention the positive environmental impact this will have. This also supports the Indian Government’s Clean Ganga and Swach Bharat initiatives but is not just an India problem it is a global one as rich and poor countries all produce waste and most of it ends up in our oceans destroying marine life.

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Ultimately billions people can benefit if these types of initiatives are rolled out more widely leading to positive change by other organisations be they public or private. Corporate Social Responsibility is not just about meeting targets for CSR budget spend any which way as it has to be more than that. Equally executives at development finance institutions have to galvanise their organisation as many are acting like private equity houses and not looking at a 10 year view for sustainable socio economic reform no matter what the PR ad rhetoric lends us to believe. The number of times we have knocked on such doors and been told that we should come back when we have a track record and profitable on such ventures for funding so we can scale further and that we should be three years old as an enterprise. If that was the case why would we need them at that stage? We are not the only ones that face this predicament.

We as the individual are the ones that have to drive this change. So it’s no surprise that we find ourselves in an era “Democratised Disruptive Innovation” (DDI as I term it) enabled by technology, where 1 month is like living 10 months in terms of opportunity and development and it is not inconceivable that in 5 years time organisations not only such as Google could be a bank and banks as we know it would be different as even we individuals could lend and borrow more and more from each other as we have seen with some tech initiatives with peer to peer lending emerging. In the last few weeks two large company CEOs have approached me that are successful as they reflected over the holiday period and said we make lots of money now but we can see that either we change or someone eats our lunch. Look at what digital cameras did to Kodak which is a shadow of its former self.

Now we can trade with each other direct by technology whereas in the past you had to be in local area and Now national and international. Anyone will be able to trade with anyone with transparent in an open manner with more consideration to just financial services. We are in an era of “Anyone to Anyone trading .“ The intermediary (middleman) is now technology and this means massive opportunities not only for companies like Google who can from nothing in 20 years to become a giant worth about $700bn USD but also for us as the individual as anything is possible. I am not saying that there is not a need for a middleman, but this match making is needed at a better price and continually needs to evolve.

We have come back full circle to the new age of barter between all of us but with online convenience to coexist with the current exchange and financial services ecosystem but technological enabled change is making it more practical, more efficient and more accessible. So we can now all embrace change and use it to empower ourselves in any manner we choose, when we choose. Whether change is the only constant (the overall theme of TEDx Panchgani) or there needs to be constant change in the way you do things is now for you to decide how best to democratise.

-Hirander Misra

CEO, GMEX

http://www.gmex-group.com/

Thank You for your friendship

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I just want to tell you that your friendship matters to me and I am  lucky to have you in my life. Today let us take sometime out and tag, call or send a message to your friends, reminding them that their presence in your life makes your life beautiful.

 

Coffee or Passion? by, Paul Fernandes

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Finally the first draft of my book is ready, two and half years of tireless brain work and now it is here, right in front of me.  Few quotes/lines from the book are given below.

  1. “We lose ourselves in our pursuit to get someone to look at us the way we want them to.”

    2.  “I have felt a sense of hopelessness and nothingness.”

    3.  “At times we might not be aware but we might have the best imagination power.”

    4.  “Life may be shot and we must n0t take it for granted.”

    5.   “We must enjoy our uniqueness and individuality.” 

    6.   “Our mind can play nasty games with us, especially when we are alone.”

copyright- “Imagination Breathing.com”

 

 

With gratitude,

 

Paul Fernandes

Founder  and  Editor-in-chief

Imagination Breathing

 

 

 

           

 

 

 

 

Onto the Next Horizon. by: Matti War. New Delhi, India.

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1398495_740019682692012_1067980546_o  Matti War. 

Onto the Next Horizon

Yesterday was the last day of my exams and it was a relief. Four days of back to back papers and term papers makes every exam I’ve appeared for so far, look like a walk in the park. Add to that an ill-timed attack of the cold and cough and I was effectively hindered. Not a good semester for me, it seemed. The last paper was quite tricky. If there was one thing I’d learnt ever since arriving at the university I’m in now, it’s that one should never think that they know enough about anything. I still find that I am quite ignorant about the world around me, where everything is cutthroat. And for someone who came from a different world, it was a bit of a nasty shock.

Today, my friend and I decided to go for a morning walk to clear our heads after nights of feverish reading and preparations. I found it a spooky experience, as we walked along the pathways I thought I knew like the back of my hand. Throughout my stay, I had only seen the place flooded with sunlight, soaked in rain or coloured with dusk; never have I seen it shrouded in stillness so eerie and peaceful at the same time. The paths which branched out in different directions receded into the inky shadows and the darkness seemed capable of swallowing anything that walked into it. I am ashamed to say that though I have never been one who endorses in beliefs of ghosts, spirits and whatever that’s associated with a life beyond the grave, that moment made me hyper-aware of my surroundings. The slight crackling of a leaf getting stepped on, the whoosh of a breeze teasing the foliage, distant footsteps that reverberated in the ground; every single sound or movement made me glance over my shoulder one too many times. Even my friend’s assurances that there was nothing to be afraid so did little to soothe my paranoia. However, the sky started to lighten up, the midnight blue softened to lighter shades as we walked together in companionable silence. When we reached the hostel, we agreed to stay for the sunrise as well. No use going back to sleep when in an hour’s time, we’d be getting breakfast.

The horizon blushed orange when we reached the rooftop. Breathtakingly beautiful and calming! And I realized that it was the perfect way to begin the ending of the 2014 chapter of our lives. I have been struggling with feelings of insecurity and uncertainty for quite some time and it showed in my inability to work on anything I had planned to accomplish. But that simple moment made me realize that it doesn’t matter at all. That’s not how one should live. Not by regretting, or looking back with hopes that we will somehow end up in some place we wanted to be but couldn’t. Not by thinking that it’s impossible to change what had transpired so far and resigning ourselves to simply living. By not getting discouraged when we’re at the lowest point of our lives but knowing that it always gets better as we go.

A year ago, I was reluctant to open myself to new experiences and I was craving for the familiar faces, sights and smells. Now, I realize that my life is going to go through its cycle of change in a few months’ time. Everything is transient yet we are hardly aware of it. I have friends who are going through the exact same motions I went through some time ago. I know that it’ll get better for all of them, the same way it got better for me. For me, the place I had felt out-of-place initially is now a second home to me. Leaving it would mean leaving all the kind people I have encountered but they will remain. In their own small way, they have left their impressions on me, postcards that I treasure in my heart.

And so, as I watched the horizon emit a stronger glow, I felt a secure sense of security in life that I know is going to help me in the days to come. Yes, there’ll be moments of darkness where I’ll have to find my way, stumbling in the dark. But there will be good times as well. An occasional helping hand, a small act of kindness from some stranger that I will encounter in future, as I keep moving on. And in time, it will be me who is going to be that kind stranger to some other lost soul. We keep taking and giving as we move on and we take each and every precious moments of happiness and keep them close to our hearts for inspiration.

And that’s the purpose of a journey, isn’t it?

How do you want to be remembered? by: Paul Fernandes

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How do you want to be remembered?

A question that has been lingering in my mind is, how do I want to be remembered?  I like what Steve Jobs once said “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today.” This quote has been stuck in my head and every time I have to take a major decision in my life this quote plays back in my head.

So my friends of Imagination Breathing . Are you doing what you always wanted to do?  Are you living a life that you always wanted to live?

May be it’s about time to ask yourself – How do you want to be remembered?

Thank You.

Best Wishes:

Paul Fernandes.

Founder

Imagination Breathing(inspiring lives)

Once upon a time. By: Mebadaiaka M Kurkalang.

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Edited in Lumia Selfie  Mebadaiaka M Kurkalang.

Once upon a time, she wrote for her school magazine, as it was her last year over there, about her beloved one_of_a_kind friends who had stood with her all the way during her schooling years. She had attained quite an appreciation for her piece from them(friends) and as well as other people who thought she had the knack for writing. Because of these praises and encouragement she had gained, she thought of attempting a pursue in writing. She would come up with a number of stories which she thought would turn out into novels or sentences that rhymed into poems or lyrics for a song. But to her dismay, none seemed to work out. Either the contents don’t make sense or she loses  track.
She wondered as to why didn’t it work out the way she thought it would. Not yet disheartened, she wondered and pondered until one day she realized something – Passion.“Passion” said she “was what I had when I wrote of my friends”. She was passionate of what and whom she had written and it turned out to be a good reminder. And then she waited for something or someone who she would be passionate about to cross her mind if ever she should produce something, in this case, out of a pen.
As days went by, along the awaited passion, she experienced others experiencing moments that made her want to reflect upon so as to pen these down. Another realization took a shot at her-Inspiration. If writing is something that she wants to do, besides other activities on her daily life, then inspiration is also what she needs.
This gradually enlightened her small confused mind, that talent is what makes a person know what to do in whatever he does, but if passion and inspiration join the cruise, everything is at its best.

Problems need to be saluted with LOL . by: Evangel Nongpluh. Shillong,India.

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altAkuRVz0hLySabILUkxz3SBh8Y_-tDct3nO9xcJHg9kP3  Evangel  Nongpluh.

 

Problems need to be saluted with  LOL .

           What if we find a quick and easy solution to every problem?  If solution is provided easily life would be  simple , right?   or … May be boring!!! We won’t know how much our inner strength is, and how to exercise our brain in thinking. Life is a game. We play hard to reach our goal and when we fail, We still have another chance to play again, and win all the level of games in our life. It never ends and we won’t quit the game easily.

              When we can laugh out loud (LOL) for silly jokes. Why not laugh out loud (LOL) for problems and start treating our problems as bad as it treats us!! Solution to every problem is always there but it just that it don’t comes out easily.Let’s not wait for others to make us happy or spoon feed us. Will make our self happy so that our surrounding can be happy. Lets use the words ‘’I can do it’’ instead of ‘’I can’t do it’’ will change the words‘’I will bear it’’ instead of ‘’I can’t bear it’’ and have patience to every problem. Will play a fun and fair game with problems. Sometimes  we can be very cunning while playing games, let’s be cunning with problems too. Lets  start with LOL to every problem and then change the outlook of it. Let’s see how problems can stay longer with us and how we give a warm welcome to every problems with LOL.!!! We don’t deserve to be depressed for unnecessary things.  Life is nothing but a flashback of Laugh Out Loud(LoL) to every part of our life.

Life is a CAROUSEL. by: Jessica Rymbai. Shillong,India.

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jessi 2   Jessica Rymbai.

 Life is a  CAROUSEL   

I thank the creator for the life that he gave me. Life has many meanings depending on how one views it. Life is also interpreted differently by each one of us and it is the attitude which matters how we handle and face it. Life is to be loved by each one of us and lived to the fullest despite of the many shortcomings, frustrations and sorrows that come in our way.

I personally do not agree that we should consider life from the situations and circumstances that we are in. Life is to be cherished and enjoyed. We must not judge life from the basis of the many sorrows, pain that life brings in our way; instead life on the other side offers each one of us better chances, better opportunities to adapt and improve, to challenge ourselves and to get better. Life may be short and we must not take it for granted. We are all blessed with a life so that we may be able to accomplish and complete the various purposes that each of us as individuals are called upon to do so whilst our stay here on earth.

Life should be viewed optimistically. I do not like to end my day without a smile on my face. I wake up in the morning thanking the Almighty for giving me another day, another chance to begin again. To be blessed with a life is such an honour.

To most of us, life is a challenge, a struggle and a continuous battle. True! But we must remember that we are given this life because we have the strength and courage to overcome, to face and cope up with what life presents to us. Sorrows, pain, the loss of loved one, miseries are all part of the journey of life, but we must never overlook the positive side of life such as love, joy and peace.

Through my experience, it is the ups and downs of life which makes life meaningful and worth-living. To live a life we must be ready to encounter and face hardships. We must be willing to face it with confidence accompanied with patience. The hardships along with other positive aspects of life are interwoven and when such things are knitted together- a wonderful fabric of life will be seen.

This reminds me of a song “At the beginning” by Richard Marx and Donna Lewis. The lyric of this particular song goes like this-

“Life is a road that I wanna  keep going,

Love is a river, I wanna keep flowing,

Life is a road, now and forever, wonderful journey”

 

Thank You.

 

Loving yourself. by Chitsiarho Po. Shillong, India.

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Loving yourself.

When  I first wrote on “Imagination Breathing”, I hoped to touch atleast one soul, hoped being the key word. I never thought it would make such an impact. So I want to thank Paul Fernandes for giving me and many others the platform to reach out to the world.

Now let me get to the article. I hope it inspires someone out there, someone who really needs it.

When I say love yourself I don’t mean to say you should be selfish and put yourself above everyone else. There is a world of difference between the two.

When you love yourself, it doesn’t mean disregarding others. It just means appreciating yourself too. Many at times I hear people talk about being selfless. I am not against putting others ahead of you. But I am against putting others ahead of yourself all the time.

Its important to love yourself. Your are of great value. You are special beyond compare. Please don’t for a second think that you’re second to anyone. You are so unique and so rare a gemstone that no one can ever come close to being another you. You’re amazing in so many ways. You’re a precious gift. You deserve to be loved in the most beautiful way. Who better than you to love you?

Most often than not, we try to find love in someone else. We think we will get happiness only when someone thinks we are special. We twist and change ourselves to fit someone else’s whims and fancies. We lose ourselves in our pursuit to get someone to look at us the way we want them to. We sacrifice our hopes and dreams and what not. In the end we feel unsatisfied and disappointed and we blame ourselves. We think there is something wrong with us. We feel incompetent and it leads to a sense of insecurity.

Here is the deal. You were looking for love in all the wrong places and wrong people. How can you expect anyone to love you when you can’t find it in yourself to truly love you. If you love yourself the way you should, you would not change yourself for anyone. It doesn’t matter who it is. You deserve to be loved and cared for in a special way and who better than you?

Ofcourse its important to love others too. Love is the answer afterall. Spread love and touch lives. Love people around you and be a blessing. I’m not encouraging selfishness. I understand we can’t always think about ourselves. But you need to remember you are responsible for you too. No one will understand you the way you do. So be the one for yourself and the rest will fall into place.

Take care. I love me. I hope you do too.

Thankyou.

Do not take your friends for granted (Friendship day/week special) By:Paul Fernandes (Imagination Breathing)

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Do not take your friends for granted (Friendship day/week special).

          I take this opportunity to wish all well-wishers of Imagination Breathing a Happy friendship day/week.

Every friend is unique, some like to listen, some like to talk non-stop, no matter what, they are still our friends. Hope you have wished your friends a Happy Friendship day/week. Some take this small thing of wishing someone for granted, you never know – may be that particular friend of yours was just waiting for your wishes.

There are some who do not have friends..  Can we identify some and bring smile to them in this coming week….. (It’s a challenge, are you ready for it?)

Below are some quotes on Friendship. These quotes may ignite a feeling of friendship in you.

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare.

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

Do not save your loving speeches
For your friends till they are dead;
Do not write them on their tombstones,
Speak them rather now instead. – Anna Cummins

 

Regards

Paul Fernandes

Founder

Imagination Breathing.(inspiring lives)

 

“The Monster within”, by: Abigail Mawrie, Shillong,India.

Inspiration, Motivation, My Blog

 


  Abigail.T.Mawrie. Shillong,India.

“ The Monster Within”.

Did you believe in monsters when you were a child? Have you ever asked your parents to check under the bed or the closet? It’s normal to be afraid, especially if you were a child but I know even adults feel scared sometimes.

Their monster is different from the imaginary ones that we feared as children. If a house is haunted, a person would either move out or have it blessed. But what if it’s not the house that is haunted by a monster? What if the monster that you fear is living inside your head?NO…,I’m not talking about a “demonic possession”. I am talking about the abusive monster that echoes negative thoughts in your mind. The monster that turns you against yourself. That rips your self esteem into shreds.

This monster rented my mind once, well it was actually for five years but hey… who keeps the counts. Right?? I don’t know how it started and why it started but I know for sure that it was five years of chaotic hell. I was tortured by this monster, emotionally and mentally. It was such an awful time, it got so bad that it effected my physical well being.    It was a battle between me and this monster and I know I won’t let him win.

I felt so beaten, broken and lonely. The loneliness was the worst part. Feeling lonely when you are actually alone is one thing, but feeling lonely when you are with your friends and family : well I have to tell you, it is by far the worst feeling that I have ever felt during the short 20 years of my life. For a time being, the monster crippled me and as hard as I have to confess this…. He crushed my pride. It was only thing left in me but that too was contaminated by the negativities of the monster. I wanted it to end. Honestly speaking, I was ready to give up and to lay myself six feet beneath the earth. Some how, during the darkest moments of my life, reason touched me. It gave me some clarity. I love God, my family and friends. I cannot go out this way. I cannot let myself spiral down to selfishness. I’m going to fight one last fight. I will forgive myself for the physical harm that I inflicted on my body. I will pick myself up and face this monster. At that point, I realized that it’s time for me to take control of my mind and emotions. You must be wondering, from where did this hope and strength come from? Although quitting and surrendering to this monster seems so pleasing and temptation seems to seep into my heart so easily; But I knew I had to stand strong. I cannot let God down. He was the only one who understood. I have to admit, somedays I question him and his existence but I realized latter on, that he fought for me. That tiny silver lining that I clung on to was him all along. He gave me strength and courage to go through what I had to go through. God helped me a lot. He even sent angels to help me pass this horror like phase of my life.

This monster invaded my  mind and life to a point where I could not remember the feelings of happiness. At that point of time, I did not know what happiness is. Feeling hollow and melancholic seems so normal to me. The very tiny crumb of peace in my mind scared me. I was not use to it and this would make me sink lower and lower into the dark abyss that I created for myself. It was definitely a difficult time for me. I was shackled to this monster. He filled my mind with un-necessary guilt, anger, self hatred, low esteem, paranoia and self doubt. I could not escape him, not even in my dreams. I hated the fact that he made me fear sleeping and waking up. Well, in all honesty, it came from God’s grace. He gave me courage to face this monster and dance the final dance.

Today, I feel better. Yes, somedays are  still tough but that’s alright. I am here now, I am alive and breathing. I survived the torment of the monster who has caused the demised of so many. I fought long enough to finally see the light and joy of living again.

As strange as this may sound. I am grateful towards the monster. He though me to be more considerate and value the important things in life. In a way, the monster made me wiser and stronger. Infact, the monster brought me closer to God. This whole experience humbled me.

In the end, I shook hands with the monster and we parted our own ways. Finally I can breathe easy…..,   Helloo life….