Oh, you screwed-up, no problem… Here’s why…..

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It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.

– J.K Rowling

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If you have never screwed-up at something at some point in life, then this post is not for you.. For the rest of the normal earthly people, let’s take this together..

May be you had made a resolution in the begining of the new year and failed to keep it, may be you screwed- up at work or relationship or whatever 1000 ways we humans are capable of screwing up.. You know, what – you have hope and it’s definetly not the end of the world and if you are reading this, I presume you are not dead…

Let’s try this- Bring to your mind a person you admire or adore a lot. (don’t read this further before bringing a person to your mind). You know what – this person who you admire a lot must have also screwed- up at something at somepoint in his or her life. So, it’s ok, he or she must have done something good enough after screwing -up, that today you admire that person…

Remember we have another day and let’s make that count..

-Paul Fernandes

Doing things when you don’t feel like and doing it anyways is what counts.

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I don’t count my sit-ups; I only start counting when it starts hurting because they’re the only ones that count. –Muhammad Ali

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So many things we only do based on our mood- and we hear a lot of them say – I don’t want to do things because there is no mood for it etc…

If the whole world would revolve around doing things as per the mood we would be doomed…

Imagine a pilot saying in the middle of the flight I am in no mood for flying and decides to leave the cockpit while in air. Or when a child is hungry and the mother tells the child I am not in the mood of giving you food.

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In relationship we can call it ‘unconditional love’ or at business we can call it ‘stick with it’ or in normal language perseverence. Whichever area you talk about, the wisdom remains the same..

I think the quote in the beginning of this post by Muhammad Ali is enough to motivate us.

What is it that you will do today to push yourself beyond your limitations of “mood”??

-Paul Fernandes

5 Things you did not know about 2019.

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While some of us are making our New Years resolutions – we have entered into the New Year. In this post I am going to tell you about 5 things you did not know about 2019.

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1. If you don’t take action, this year will not be any different.

You may have decided to do certain things, achieve certain results and live your dream life. This won’t be possible if you don’t take any action on those decisions. I like the Nike tag line – just do it. So let’s take some concrete actions on our desires to achieve higher results.

2. No one is going to help you more than you can help yourself.

We need people around us, no doubt about it. But if we only depend on people to help us reach our destination, we will never reach there. People have their own sh*t to deal with. So, you do all you can to achieve your goals and depend less on others doing it for you.

3. Health is wealth.

Last year I have seen too many young people dying due to health problems. There is no use of trying and getting millions, if your not there to enjoy it. This year let’s keep the balance between work and time to look after our body.

4. You don’t read, you don’t lead.

So many things are happening in our world today, that keeping a pace with what’s happening around us becomes very important. Let’s make a commitment to read more this year, because I believe reading and leading is directly associated with each other.

5. You are awesome.

I believe you are beautiful, handsome, hot, sexy, intelligent, successful and whatever you wish to be. Deep down I know you want to be that. Believe you are beautiful or handsome or successful and I am sure confidence, hardwork and belief in yourself will take you just where you want to be.

May be all of these 5 things were just a reminder to start this year with right mindset and positive attitude..

Have a wonderful year 2019.😀

-Paul Fernandes

If I did it my way and failed, it’s OK, An extra step changes everything. -Anil Singh.

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If I did it my way and failed, it’s ok. These words came out of Anil Singh’s mouth and most of the audience had an immediate connection with him. This article is my take on Anil Singh’s TEDX, Panchgani talk, which at a personal level did move me a lot. His journey with marathon started with the London marathon. The difference between participatory sports and spectator sports was crystal clear in his talk.

He said, “When over 40,000 plus people participate in the marathon run, there are 40,000 plus winners and with it 40,000 stories.” These were golden words, because isn’t our life about stories ?

He spoke about getting Standard Chartered to back up his dream of having a marathon and how he made people understand the fabric of sports. Two things which stood out were perseverance and love for sports. I think we all need to have both, love and perseverance no matter what field we are into.

I am paraphrasing the words of Anil Singh – ‘If I did it my way and failed it was ok, I would get a good sleep, imagine I did it your way and failed, I would never get sleep’. May be this is what we need sometimes, to believe in our dream and to know that in the end it will workout.

Anil Singh introduced India to “Dream run”. And this year(2018) it’s called as TATA Mumbai marathon.

Anil Singh is the founder and Managing Director of Procam International – the company that promotes the iconic TATA Mumbai Marathon, Airtel Delhi Half Marathon, TCS World 10k Bengaluru and the Tata Steel Kolkata 25k.

Imagination Breathing wishes him all the best for his future endeavours. Let’s all as he says, “Keep plunging away”.

One voice was louder than the rest- DANCE, DANCE, DANCE!

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I loved dancing since I was a kid. I always looked for opportunities to get on stage and dance. After I had finished my schooling years, my dream of being a professional dancer was fading away. I knew dance was the only thing that would make me come alive.

After my 3 years of graduation, I was contemplating about going into management sector. It was the movie “3 idiots” that changed my mind and I began to ask myself some serious questions on what I really wanted to do in life. One voice was louder than the rest “DANCE, DANCE DANCE.” I listened to my gut feeling and decided to venture into the world of professional dancing. My family and friends always supported my decision.

Since Bollywood is full of senior experienced choreographers and dancers, the biggest struggle in Mumbai was to find work as a choreographer. On a good day I would get through an audition or an interview, on a bad day it was worst.

I thought of doing my training in my hometown- Goa, but there were no professional institutes that attracted me. I was on a lookout for full time dance training institute and then I came across Terence Lewis professional training institute.

I auditioned in 2010, but I did not get through. I worked hard at my moves everyday for a year and then I auditioned again in 2011 and this time I got selected for the scholarship programme. I finished my training in 2013, then I got selected to work with Terence Lewis contemporary dance co. as performer, I was really happy n amazed to finally work with Terence Lewis. He is one of the most intelligent and beautiful human being I have come across, he is my biggest motivation in life who has always been there when I needed him. He has been a guide and friend to me.

Today, I am a professional dancer and choreographer and this was possible because of immense hard work, support form Terence Lewis and unconditional love from family and friends. To all those out there who aspire to be professional dancers. Get into this business only if you have love for it and are willing to work hard.

-Shailesh

Tell your story to the world and be a part of this Global platform.

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This is what drives me out of bed every morning. I always wanted to make my mark in this world and when you realise that your work is viewed in so many countries listed above, the feeling is unfathomable. I am grateful to all the people who have written for “imagination breathing”. I still remember the day vividly how I wrote my first post knowing nothing about the blogging world and today “imagination breathing” has been a platform for writers, entrepreneurs, adventurist, artists, social activists etc etc and continues to inspire thousands of lives around the world. Just want to say thank you to all those who believed in me and thanks to those who laughed at my ideas because you’ll helped me to work hard and persevere. Without you’ll this success would have not been possible. And to all those out there having big dreams and ideas, your dreams are never too small, you just have to DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT!

Thank you WordPress for the stats, you have made me and all those who contributed their articles on Imagination Breathing, SMILE.

If you too want to be part of this venture for inspiring lives, if you want me to cover your story or if you know anyone whose story is worth sharing on a global platform, kindly write to me at paulib005@gmail.com

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Best wishes,

Paul Fernandes
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Onto the Next Horizon. by: Matti War. New Delhi, India.

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1398495_740019682692012_1067980546_o  Matti War. 

Onto the Next Horizon

Yesterday was the last day of my exams and it was a relief. Four days of back to back papers and term papers makes every exam I’ve appeared for so far, look like a walk in the park. Add to that an ill-timed attack of the cold and cough and I was effectively hindered. Not a good semester for me, it seemed. The last paper was quite tricky. If there was one thing I’d learnt ever since arriving at the university I’m in now, it’s that one should never think that they know enough about anything. I still find that I am quite ignorant about the world around me, where everything is cutthroat. And for someone who came from a different world, it was a bit of a nasty shock.

Today, my friend and I decided to go for a morning walk to clear our heads after nights of feverish reading and preparations. I found it a spooky experience, as we walked along the pathways I thought I knew like the back of my hand. Throughout my stay, I had only seen the place flooded with sunlight, soaked in rain or coloured with dusk; never have I seen it shrouded in stillness so eerie and peaceful at the same time. The paths which branched out in different directions receded into the inky shadows and the darkness seemed capable of swallowing anything that walked into it. I am ashamed to say that though I have never been one who endorses in beliefs of ghosts, spirits and whatever that’s associated with a life beyond the grave, that moment made me hyper-aware of my surroundings. The slight crackling of a leaf getting stepped on, the whoosh of a breeze teasing the foliage, distant footsteps that reverberated in the ground; every single sound or movement made me glance over my shoulder one too many times. Even my friend’s assurances that there was nothing to be afraid so did little to soothe my paranoia. However, the sky started to lighten up, the midnight blue softened to lighter shades as we walked together in companionable silence. When we reached the hostel, we agreed to stay for the sunrise as well. No use going back to sleep when in an hour’s time, we’d be getting breakfast.

The horizon blushed orange when we reached the rooftop. Breathtakingly beautiful and calming! And I realized that it was the perfect way to begin the ending of the 2014 chapter of our lives. I have been struggling with feelings of insecurity and uncertainty for quite some time and it showed in my inability to work on anything I had planned to accomplish. But that simple moment made me realize that it doesn’t matter at all. That’s not how one should live. Not by regretting, or looking back with hopes that we will somehow end up in some place we wanted to be but couldn’t. Not by thinking that it’s impossible to change what had transpired so far and resigning ourselves to simply living. By not getting discouraged when we’re at the lowest point of our lives but knowing that it always gets better as we go.

A year ago, I was reluctant to open myself to new experiences and I was craving for the familiar faces, sights and smells. Now, I realize that my life is going to go through its cycle of change in a few months’ time. Everything is transient yet we are hardly aware of it. I have friends who are going through the exact same motions I went through some time ago. I know that it’ll get better for all of them, the same way it got better for me. For me, the place I had felt out-of-place initially is now a second home to me. Leaving it would mean leaving all the kind people I have encountered but they will remain. In their own small way, they have left their impressions on me, postcards that I treasure in my heart.

And so, as I watched the horizon emit a stronger glow, I felt a secure sense of security in life that I know is going to help me in the days to come. Yes, there’ll be moments of darkness where I’ll have to find my way, stumbling in the dark. But there will be good times as well. An occasional helping hand, a small act of kindness from some stranger that I will encounter in future, as I keep moving on. And in time, it will be me who is going to be that kind stranger to some other lost soul. We keep taking and giving as we move on and we take each and every precious moments of happiness and keep them close to our hearts for inspiration.

And that’s the purpose of a journey, isn’t it?

I forgive you . (Anonymous)

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forgive    (Anonymous/ identity withheld)

 I’ve been pretending that it was all a dream… but reality strikes me every now and then.

A little girl loved her mama and her father, only 8 years old.
knew not it was right or wrong,
so she kept shut like she was asked to do..because she was a good little girl.
abused yes that’s my reality..
but till date I still don’t feel like it happened to me.
feel like it was a nightmare that I can never wake up from.
like I’m just an audience, staring at a helpless 8 year old self.
Alcohol altered mind, despite his doings I had love for him, until I was old enough to realize that he destroyed me.
Funny though, I still cried when he left this world, out of relief or out of grief that remains a confusion to me.
I wanted to tell another soul, but I couldn’t trust anyone enough to let it out. I love my mother but she failed to see this darkness in me.
         As I grew older, I became worst as it haunted me. I’ve tried to develop the ability to forget, but the human brain oh! its messes with me.
that sacred love that you would one day share with the love of your life, a white wedding they call it.
that was taken away from me.
It made things worst when i indulged in it myself only because I thought it was going to help me erase and replace the bad memories.
Even though it was wrong the devil made it feel right..
  I prayed that God forgives and pardons his soul.
I know I’m not the only one, there are many silent souls out there. Prayer and Forgiveness yes thats what gets you by. I have written this for a reason to change a life, to help another overcome their darkness. Forgive more in life.
Thank You.
Anonymous .

Face your fears, don’t run away. by Paul Fernandes.

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WP_20140111_00620140218184052      Paul Fernandes.

Face your fears, don’t run away.

“Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”  ― Paulo Coelho, Alchemist.

           I was twelve years old and my brother was seven. One afternoon we decided to go for a cycle ride, so he sat behind on the cycle as I was riding.  We had gone on many rides before, but this was the most painful ride that I ever had. I remember the words which I told my younger brother “Hold on tight” as we were approaching a very steep slope. Within seconds the horror struck. The cycle slipped, I tried my best to control it, pressed the brakes but they were stuck. All I could see was a pile of huge stones ahead of me and I feared the worst. My brother screamed “stop, stop”. I had no idea what to do, I was  desperately trying to press the breaks ,for a moment the breaks worked, but trying to apply sudden breaks on a steep slope, the cycle slipped even more ,It threw my brother off from the bicycle on a pile of sand. “I am fine he said” that was a relief, but now it was my turn – two choices were before me ,First choice- either to jump off the cycle , in which case I will have multiple fractures or aim at the pile of stones ,with a risk of banging my head. Before I could decide I had hit my head on the pile of stones. “All I could see was darkness” . My head was bleeding and I had bruises all over my body.

         I and my brother survived the accident but the effect it had on me was more painful than the scars it left. I never wanted to touch the bicycle or bike  again and every time I was on a bike with someone else riding it, I would close my eyes when we approached a slope. Years went by and I was just too frighten to ride a vehicle. Last year, I decided I will ride again and I knew “the only way to overcome the fear was not to run away but to face it”. It took time, determination, belief and courage to overcome the fear. We cannot run away from our fears, we have to face it one time or the other.

       What are the things you fear the most, which is not allowing you to live a happy life? Is it fear of speaking in public or is it that you are afraid to trust someone else, just because you were hurt in the past? Whatever it may be it’s a choice set before you either to face it or keep running away from it.

Today when I look back, this experience has thought me to value life. Some of us take life for granted and we only realize the value of it, as it slips away from us.  Same goes with our relationships  – some only realize the value of a person when they are no longer with them.     I don’t mean we should not enjoy our life , we should and it’s our right, but not at the cost of taking foolish risks.  We have one life to live, let’s not take it for granted.

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We cannot teach people anything; we can only help them discover it within themselves.-Galileo Galilei.

With Gratitude.

Paul Fernandes

Founder

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“The Monster within”, by: Abigail Mawrie, Shillong,India.

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  Abigail.T.Mawrie. Shillong,India.

“ The Monster Within”.

Did you believe in monsters when you were a child? Have you ever asked your parents to check under the bed or the closet? It’s normal to be afraid, especially if you were a child but I know even adults feel scared sometimes.

Their monster is different from the imaginary ones that we feared as children. If a house is haunted, a person would either move out or have it blessed. But what if it’s not the house that is haunted by a monster? What if the monster that you fear is living inside your head?NO…,I’m not talking about a “demonic possession”. I am talking about the abusive monster that echoes negative thoughts in your mind. The monster that turns you against yourself. That rips your self esteem into shreds.

This monster rented my mind once, well it was actually for five years but hey… who keeps the counts. Right?? I don’t know how it started and why it started but I know for sure that it was five years of chaotic hell. I was tortured by this monster, emotionally and mentally. It was such an awful time, it got so bad that it effected my physical well being.    It was a battle between me and this monster and I know I won’t let him win.

I felt so beaten, broken and lonely. The loneliness was the worst part. Feeling lonely when you are actually alone is one thing, but feeling lonely when you are with your friends and family : well I have to tell you, it is by far the worst feeling that I have ever felt during the short 20 years of my life. For a time being, the monster crippled me and as hard as I have to confess this…. He crushed my pride. It was only thing left in me but that too was contaminated by the negativities of the monster. I wanted it to end. Honestly speaking, I was ready to give up and to lay myself six feet beneath the earth. Some how, during the darkest moments of my life, reason touched me. It gave me some clarity. I love God, my family and friends. I cannot go out this way. I cannot let myself spiral down to selfishness. I’m going to fight one last fight. I will forgive myself for the physical harm that I inflicted on my body. I will pick myself up and face this monster. At that point, I realized that it’s time for me to take control of my mind and emotions. You must be wondering, from where did this hope and strength come from? Although quitting and surrendering to this monster seems so pleasing and temptation seems to seep into my heart so easily; But I knew I had to stand strong. I cannot let God down. He was the only one who understood. I have to admit, somedays I question him and his existence but I realized latter on, that he fought for me. That tiny silver lining that I clung on to was him all along. He gave me strength and courage to go through what I had to go through. God helped me a lot. He even sent angels to help me pass this horror like phase of my life.

This monster invaded my  mind and life to a point where I could not remember the feelings of happiness. At that point of time, I did not know what happiness is. Feeling hollow and melancholic seems so normal to me. The very tiny crumb of peace in my mind scared me. I was not use to it and this would make me sink lower and lower into the dark abyss that I created for myself. It was definitely a difficult time for me. I was shackled to this monster. He filled my mind with un-necessary guilt, anger, self hatred, low esteem, paranoia and self doubt. I could not escape him, not even in my dreams. I hated the fact that he made me fear sleeping and waking up. Well, in all honesty, it came from God’s grace. He gave me courage to face this monster and dance the final dance.

Today, I feel better. Yes, somedays are  still tough but that’s alright. I am here now, I am alive and breathing. I survived the torment of the monster who has caused the demised of so many. I fought long enough to finally see the light and joy of living again.

As strange as this may sound. I am grateful towards the monster. He though me to be more considerate and value the important things in life. In a way, the monster made me wiser and stronger. Infact, the monster brought me closer to God. This whole experience humbled me.

In the end, I shook hands with the monster and we parted our own ways. Finally I can breathe easy…..,   Helloo life….